My space right now is very safe, and I'm not sure what that means, except to say that I feel I've been given these days as a present to just be, to heal, to regroup. I find myself wanting to be all kinds of anxious about what I should be doing now that I'm not pursuing a life with Emmett. I have to intentionally refrain from jumping into activities and commitments simply for the fleeting comfort of finding an identity in something other than Christ.
Not that life's easy, now, don't get me wrong. Temptation presses in on my little bubble, sometimes poking holes I have to fill with my handy purple crayon almost faster than I can draw. Or I go tumbling right through the same sins like I have a million times before and find myself tangled and broken in need of repentance.
But I have a strong sense of being held, and I keep reading psalm 139:
You hem me in - behind and before; You have laid your hand upon me.At the most acute times of suffering, that verse has been suffocatingly oppressive, almost impossible for me to read even though I'm drawn to read it over and over. But now I can read with something like a feeling of wonder. In working through Hebrews 12, I've recently come to verse 11:
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.I wonder how many times I have not submitted to the discipline of the Lord but instead gone about my own way because it seemed pleasing at the moment, only in the end to suffer acutely from my own sin and folly. It has been freeing to undergo a discipline that I cannot escape, to be pressed upon so firmly that I cannot help but submit, and find that in submission even to the pain and loss there is comfort and peace. I see now how submission leads to righteousness because, having tasted of the Lord's sweetness to those who grieve, temptation has lost much of its appeal. As a small example, I have seen the desire for intimacy and love wreak havoc on all sorts of people, myself included, when not submitted to Christ. And though I miss the intimacy of marriage, I am not (perhaps I should insert a yet here) tempted to pursue it again. My eyes are opened in new ways to sin and brokenness, and I harbor no illusions about how they damage even relationships based on Christ. There are a thousand more examples that I am still working out in my own life, as if I'm looking through a kaleidoscope and beginning to see pictures in the swirling colors for the first time.
So I'm patiently waiting as the Lord chisels away at those scales over my eyes. Like the blind man who saw people walking around like trees, I don't seem to really see things properly the first time (or sometimes the second time, third time, etc), so I'm trying to sit still and be patient while the Lord works on me.