So as I stay up waiting for he fire to go out tonight, I keep listening to his song on repeat:
Kate York, Lay Down Your Sorrows
Lay down your sorrows so troubled of heart
come to the tree on the hill as you are
Lay down your burdens that you've called friends
watch as it blooms into life again
Here is the ending and here it begins
here at the river that washes your sins.
Cast all your shame, all your sorrows and guilt
here on this altar that love has built.
There is no burden too heavy for him
There is no battle scar he cannot mend.
Love is a man well acquainted with grief,
He longs to show you the way to peace.
Fathers and mothers, O daughters and sons,
Mercy is waiting with wide open arms.
Heaven's a feast and the table is set.
Run with abandon and never look back.
I love the rhythm of this song. It makes me feel like a little girl dancing. Not that I actually danced in my living room. Who would do something so silly.... Sheesh. When Quinn dances, which he still does frequently and with great abandon, it is a glorious sight to behold. His awkward hips and flailing arms interspersed with short, jerky hops delight my heart, even as I'm silently praying he doesn't fall on his face again because, let's face it, the poor guy inherited my coordination.
Someone responded to one of my last few posts, commenting on my grief journey, and I was a little surprised. There is so much darkness and struggle in my life, and grief - of a sort, yet I haven't felt particularly like I've been grieving. Rather, I feel like grief over Emmett was just the first step into a new dimension of my journey, a new awareness of God at work. It's funny to be pigeon-holed as "the widow," and it sometimes catches me off guard when I get the impression that people expect me to be carrying some kind of weight ready to dump on the next unsuspecting victim. Yet I can honestly say that precisely because of the intensity of the battle, I've never felt this light.
Perhaps it is because I've given up trying to arrange my life just so, trying to get the stack just right. As I watch the fire die tonight, I'm praying for God to arrange the pieces of my life just so, to stack each gnarled, soaked, twisted branch into a glorious heap ready to catch on fire. And that's not a place of grief. It's a place of reality, not a blind superficiality, but a tenuous hope. Not ignorant of suffering, but not driven to despair. I've found it to be part battlefield and part ballroom. It's a curiously secure yet fragile place where joy is forged from sorrow and peace is the hard won prize for long-suffering.